Do the Write Thing.

With the technologically crazed world that we are living in today we can do anything from video chat with our cousin in China to purchasing the latest Chanel jacket straight off the runway from our cell phones.  Although all of these 2012 advantages make life a lot easier, they also allow people to forget their manners.  When was the last time you received a hand written thank-you note in the mail?  Do people even own stationary anymore, or even use the U.S. Postal Service? 

All of these digital advances have put us in a time poor society, but how can we forget our please and thank yous?  These internet aids are supposed to make our lives easier yet many of us just use them as an excuse to be just plain old lazy.  For as long as I can remember my mother always made me write thank-you notes, and I could never understand why.  I vividly recall spending the weekend following my Bat-Mitzvah writing over two hundred thank yous, feeling like my hand was about to fall off of my arm.  Why couldn’t I just pick up the phone and call my relatives or email them about that amazing gift they gave me?  The answer: tradition. 

People have been writing thank you notes since before the times of the Pony Express.  Kings and Queens would send out letters thanking people for visiting them.  So, if the royals can do it, why cant we?  It all comes down to one thing, laziness.  Society at large enjoys taking the easy way out.  We feel why cant we just pick up the phone, or write a quick little email?  Lets think of it this way – someone took their time to pick out a present for you, why shouldn’t you take some time to show your gratitude?  Does it really take that much energy to write a short little notes expressing your appreciation?

Writing thank you notes can actually be a way to show your individualism as well. Today there are endless options in the world of stationary from textured paper, to stamps, right down to the ink you use!  There are even website for the societal sloths where you can personalize stylish stationaries. Here are some of my faves: 

{CECI NEW YORK for Tiny Prints}

{Etsy}

{Bernard Maisner}

Lets face it, life is all about the little things. Those little gestures that make you smile.  If you can take five minutes and show someone your appreciation, just think of that smile you will bring to their face.  Gracias, Merci, Grazie; Any way you say it make sure it’s a great thank you.

As Always,

In Style We Trust

Wedding Digits.

Do the day, time, and year of your wedding have more meaning than just a date? With all of the thousands of preparations that go into a wedding should the date be number one? Choosing a date to have that once in a lifetime event is hard enough, yet are there superstitions behind those actual numbers? I'm here, if you'll have me, to tackle the mystery of weddings by the numbers.


May is supposedly the unluckiest month to have a wedding according to ancient Romans. But I thought, “April showers bring May flowers?” They associated the month with death and black was usually worn all month.  And who said you can’t wear black to a wedding?             

And how about this rhyme:

“Married in January’s roar and rime, 
Widowed you’ll be before your prime. 
Married in February’s sleepy weather, 
Life you’ll tread in time together.
Married when March winds shrill and roar,
Your home will lie on a distant shore.
Married ‘neath April’s changeful skies, 
A checkered path before you lies.
Married when bees o’er May blossoms flit,
Strangers around your board will sit.
Married in month of roses June,
Life will be one long honeymoon.
Married in July with flowers ablaze,
Bitter-sweet memories in after days.
Married in August’s heat and drowse,
Lover and friend in your chosen spouse.
Married in September’s golden glow,
Smooth and serene your life will go.
Married when leaves in October thin, 
Toil and hardships for you begin.
Married in veils of November mist, 
Fortune your wedding ring has kissed. 
Married in days of December’s cheer, 
Love’s star shines brighter from year to year.”

As if things weren’t hard enough do people really want to live on a distant shore? I don’t find that too appealing March. Honestly, how accurate can this be is rhymes? Maybe they wanted to use a different phrase but it just didn’t make the rhyming cut.  June used to be the month of month to get married since it is named after Juno, the Roman counterpart to Hera.  Hera was the God of… You guessed it Marriage. How Cliché.

Now if you’re still ready to go ahead with this marriage after the stress of choosing a month, its time to pick the date! As if the month wasn’t hard enough with twelve choices, there are an average of thirty days in every month to choose from. Still breathing? Sunday used to be the most popular day to wed since most people were off from work (Day of Rest). In the seventeenth century the Puritans put a stop to exchanging your vows on Sundays because it was indecent to be festive on the Sabbath.  Today Saturdays are the most popular despite the rhyme: Monday for health, Tuesday for wealth, Wednesday best of all,
Thursday for losses, Friday for crosses, Saturday for no luck at all.


Numerologists over the years have come up with their own theory of when to tie the knot.  Add the month, day, and year you will be married. If the answer is two digits, ad each digit together until you get a final 1 digit number. For example: Married: June 12, 1999 (June = 6). 6+ 1+2+1+ 9 + 9 +9 =37. 3 + 7 = 10. 1 + 0 = 1. Your Marriage Vibration Number = 1. According to Numerologists Vibration Numbers to avoid are 4, 8, and 5.  The number five specifically can lead to divorce between couples. 

A personal year, month or day of 1 is a number of beginnings, new starts. People in a 1 personal year, month or day have a tendency to be a bit self absorbed. Ambition is a key element of this number. Individualism. The number 1 does however remain a good number for a wedding date as it indicates a start and a commitment to the new life.

This website will actually calculates your date for you! 

These are the most sought out dates coming up in 2012/2013,  husbands-to-be you shouldn’t have too much trouble remembering your anniversary with these!

* 10/11/12 falls on a Thursday

* 12/12/12 falls on a Wednesday

* 11/12/13 falls on a Tuesday

So, if by now you’re in cardiac arrest I suggest to just run away and elope, Vegas is nice! But, if you’re still breathing, think of it this way: if the date never mattered to you in the first place you shouldn’t let this scare you.  We as humans know what is right and wrong for ourselves, and what can be right for you can be wrong for someone else.  Also, many of these theories are outdated from thousands of years ago.  Just stay true to yourself and you will have the day of your dreams!

As always,

Shelby, Author of In Style We Trust